Hey everyone! Today I have my friend Rich guest blogging for me all about first looks for brides and grooms, along with an adorable video of one of his own couples – how cool is he, right? Rich is a professional photographer and videographer, and shoots alongside his lovely fiance Christine in sunny California. Before he starts though, I have a funny story about him – a couple of days ago we were chatting, and I was telling him about one of my epic skidoo runs. Totally serious, he asked ‘what is skidoo’? Haha!I hope you enjoy his post – please let me know in the comments what you think!
-Alex
Rich: For many many years, it has been understood that if a groom sees his bride in her dress before she walks down the aisle, the marriage will be doomed. This tradition actually comes from a time of arranged marriages, where marriages were actually business deals between families and land owners. This usually meant prosperity and wealth for the families involved, so the groom was never allowed to see his bride before the wedding, because if he thought she was “ugly”, he would run away, and the deal would be off. No land. No wealth. No prosperity.
Fast forward a few hundred years, and here we are still holding to that tradition. However, there are a few brave souls that dare challenge it with what we call, “The First Look.” The first look is actually a pre-designated time where the bride and groom see each other BEFORE the ceremony! Here are Christine and I’s top 5 reasons why we absolutely LOVE the first look:
1) Seeing each other for the first time is a very special moment. Why not make it even more personal, and keep that moment between the two of you as opposed to hundreds of guests?
2) Since the first look is just for the two of you, you’ll be able to freely act however you want. Cry, laugh, dance. It’s all gravy. We photographers love that stuff. And you will too once you see the photos. Emotion is key. There are no rules.
3) Seeing each other before the ceremony frees you and your photographer up to get formals out of the way early so that you guys will be able to just relax and unwind a little bit after the ceremony. After all, you guys have some heavy partying to do. Better rest up.
4) Relating to no. 2, many of us have a deep fear of speaking in public so we opt out of reciting our own vows at the ceremony. With the first look, you’ll be able to tell your lovey exactly how you feel about them in whatever words you choose.
Whether you choose a first look or not, your wedding is all about emotion you two share. The first look is a very special opportunity for you guys to express emotions with each other.
And so I leave you with the perfect example of a first look. Michelle and Kenny are one of the sweetest couples out there. They just ooze with love for each other. This was the first time Michelle had ever seen Kenny cry.